The Wedding Seating Plan: Stress or Strategy? Our Top Tips from Real Sitwell Couples

Planning a wedding? You’ve probably already heard that seating plans are one of the biggest causes of pre-wedding stress — but they don’t have to be. At The Sitwell Arms Hotel, we’ve helped hundreds of couples find the perfect seating set-up for their day, and we’re here to share the tricks, tips, and ideas that actually work.

Whether you’re planning an intimate do for 30 or a big family celebration for 120+, a seating plan is more than just logistics — it’s part of the experience.

Why Have a Seating Plan?

Some couples ask, “Do we even need one?” The truth is, you don’t have to… but if you’re having a sit-down meal, a seating plan removes a huge amount of last-minute faff and confusion. It makes guests feel looked after, avoids table politics, and gives your day a sense of flow.

Plus, it gives you the chance to create those special little moments — putting Grandma with your cousins she hasn’t seen in years, or seating old uni friends together so they can relive the glory days.

Tips from Team Sitwell:

Over the years, we’ve seen every kind of set-up — from ultra-traditional top tables to modern mix-ups — and here’s what works best:

1. Start with who needs to sit where

Think elderly relatives, young kids, people with access needs, and anyone who might need to be near the loo or a quieter spot.

2. Be brave with the top table

The classic layout (you, your new spouse, parents, best man, and maid of honour) works brilliantly for some. But don’t be afraid to switch it up. Sweetheart tables (just the couple) are trending, and so are family tables.

3. Group by energy

Stick your party starters together and your quieter guests where conversation can flow without shouting. Think vibes, not just family lines.

4. Mix & Match Favours

Want to break the ice? Add individualised place settings or icebreaker cards. We’ve seen some really clever ones that got guests laughing before the starter even arrived.

Real Talk: What Sitwell Couples Say

“We were dreading the seating plan — but the team were so helpful! They walked us through the layout and helped us see where the ‘clashes’ might be before we even sent invites.” – Hannah & Josh, 2024

 The Sitwell Setup

When you book your wedding with us, you don’t just get a room — you get a whole team. We’ll help you plan the layout, walk the space, and make sure your vision actually works for your numbers. Need a children’s table? Quiet corner for naps? Dancefloor nearby? We’ve got you.

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